Poem - Criminal's Love

 Criminal's Love

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How do I let her know that I can't stay

It's in nature of scorpion to bite and betray

I will miss the touch of her skin and soft moan

But its for her best, as my past sins follow me 

that cant be undone

Being with her has taught me love

Caring and sharing is what she calls love

I have lived a life that I cant share

I am leaving because I care

                                  -VK

Recommended 2000 calorie diet is making me FAT !!!

 FDA and other sources that you see, recommend or calculate based on a 2000 calories per day diet.

All the food you eat, has to be consumed or worked out by you. Any that i not consumed is stored as FAT in body for later use.

So how much is each calorie worth ?

Do consume each calorie, you have to walk it out or do equivalent work to burn it.

1 calorie = 20 steps (walked)

2000 calories = 40,000 steps.  

If you have a desk job like me, when the hell do i walk 40,000 steps ? No wonder i am FAT and getting more FAT every day.  WTF  !!!!

Now to loose all that fat, its going to take more to burn it, as its all solid calories.

1 gram of fat  = 9 calories = 180 steps 

250 grams of fat =  2250 calories =  45,000 steps

So to burn 1 pound of body fat, I need to walk 10,000 steps ( roughly 5 miles ) , each week ( 5 days a week ) .

So to start, first, I need to reduce my calorie intake to half of recommended, to about 1000 calories. 

Next, to walk 5 miles daily or do 1 hour intense exercise, to burn those extra fat cells, that have accumulated over many years.

Hopefully, if I keep myself motivated and don't quit , i can shed those extra pounds in couple of years.

I hope FDA will change the calories intake recommendations and  tell all to eat less !!!

If you are athlete like Mike Phelps, you can eat 10,000 calories, but you are not. so don't !! :) 

In this journey of life, do you define your journey or does the journey define you ?

In this journey of life, do you define your journey or does the journey define you ?

Your life, your choices, your thoughts are molded by what you see and what you learn.

Parents, Guardians, surrounding  etc. play a major role in molding your thoughts as kids and imprinting basic values of life, wellbeing, honesty and other virtues. Sometimes, parents can impose  or nudge you towards a path. Good parents, mostly have good intentions and guide kids towards a better path and life. This also puts you towards a better journey.

 As adult, you choose how you will be and what you want to be as a person. You are free to choose and define your life, morals and the person you want to be.

If you are fortunate and free, you can choose the path you can go on. You can choose to do the right thing, be honest and just . This will be your path for choosing. 

When you walk down a path, there are many unknowns . There can be both good and bad surprises, which will change your way of life.

So YES, if you are fortunate to live in a free world, have had good parents , guardian or mentors who guided you well, you choose your journey and how the journey goes, will mold you to be the person you would be.

But that is not always the case. Sometimes, you are not free to make your own choices. 

For example, this is not true for children who are forced to participate in WAR or kidnapped to be slaves or part of organized crimes. There is no choice in that life. Its imposed on you. 

The journey imposed on you is harsh and full of misfortunes . If someone is fortunate to find a good mentor or guide, their life can change for better and put them on a better path .

Be aware of your blessings and know, what you are today is because of your parents, guides, mentors, virtues taught to you and your self . Choose your path wisely.

We should not be judgmental about less fortunate beings, who lead a different path. For those, it was not of their own choosing or they were not guided or taught well to choose the correct one. Be empathetic with these souls and help them get back on the right path.

You can volunteer at your school or homeless shelter. If you cant directly help or be involved, you can contribute to those organizations who do. Do what you can do. 

Be good, kind and empathetic to all, for you don't know what others have been or going through in life. 

                                                                                                                        

Do you think something or someone is GOOD or BAD ? Depends where you start

Do you think something or someone is bad or good, depends on how you start evaluating .

If you start on a positive note, considering that its good, than you will see all good things in that person or concept. Your list of good things will be much longer than the list of bad , which you usually tend to overlook . Its difficult to shake that positive thought.

If you start with the negative thought about something or someone, you start highlighting all the negative aspects and your negative list is bigger and all the positives are overlooked. You started with bad and after quick evaluation, ended up with worst thought for that person or thing or concept.

So where should you start ?

If you have positive thought, start by considering that its a negative thing or person and see if you can find and highlight all the negative aspects . Later you can evaluate for yourself if you still think, the positives are more to overlook all negative .

Similar way, if you have negative outlook for someone or something, start your evaluation with the positive bias and see if you can find all positive aspects and later evaluate if your list of positives is still lower than your previous negative outlook . 

You might change your mind , from what you were thinking previously.

Is there a God or this world is totally Random ?

If you are a person who believes in GOD, that's OK and if you are someone who believes in science and think concept of GOD is some fairy tale, you are right too.

So which one is it ? Should you believe in something ?

I am biased on that science side, but I would advise people to believe in some higher power. Why ?

This world is full of random events, chaos you may call it. These random events are the ones that impact your life, which can be good or bad . You can also call it Luck and some believers call it Will of God.

If you don't believe in something, you have to take full responsibility of your actions and outcomes that come of your actions. It is important to understand that the outcomes of your actions are not just because of your actions, but a combination of multitude of other peoples thinking at actions that influence the final outcome. If you only believe that the success or failure was ALL YOU, then your will get less happy as you think you worked very hard to get it and more miserable considering that you did something wrong. This can be very stressful at times. So acknowledging that there are thousands of other events, that might eventually drive the outcomes, no matter how highly you thought that outcome will be positive, but turned out to be negative that you failed. Don't blame yourself for all that. Its ALL these chaotic and random events that define our life , be it positive or negative. 

So you need to believe in randomness of life OR Luck, if you would like to call it that. You don't control it and it can just happen . You might get positive results in just one attempt or it can take ten. Sometime, you just happen to be at a place and other random events , make it the right place to be and you hit that positive outcome , OR all those random events can make it a wrong place leading to a negative outcome. You were at same place, just the random events made it the right place or wrong place, totally out of your control. 

If you are non-believer or atheist or man of science, cut yourself some slack and acknowledge that randomness plays a big role and you are not responsible for all negative or positive things happening to you. 

If you are someone who believes in GOD, continue to do that, but do evolve with the knowledge that humanity has gained in thousands of years since the scriptures were written. All the holy scriptures are observations of that time, written with the limited knowledge available. So evolve and rethink and let your GOD be guiding factor in being a good human being.

Everybody has the great - What if question !!!

Many times in our life, we have the What-if question, about decisions we made or something that didn't happen or that old girlfriend that we didn't connect with, etc. etc.

What didn't happen, we can only guess at this time, as to what it would had been, ad it would be only a guess and things could had turned out either good or very bad. Remember that you took that decision, at time in past for a reason or some circumstance .

Look at your life Now. Do you feel your life is good now ? 

If your Answer is YES , be thankful that your life has turned out very good , even tough you had missed on certain things or people in life. It is much better now, for sure . It might had turned out to be not so good, had those past events happened in your life, and your life would had taken altogether different turn and it would be a different life you would be leading now.

So stop worrying about your past decisions and feel blessed for a happy life you have NOW.

If you are worrying about a What-If question in present, than just go and ask for it. Ask for that raise you feel you deserve OR Ask that girl out that you had been waiting for a long time , at worst you will get a NO answer, nothing to loose in that. In future, you can say, hey at least I tried. The What-If feeling is worst, if you don't even try. The outcomes can vary, which is not something you control. 

Outcomes of anything we do or any action we take, is result of so many secondary events that its difficult to guess the exact outcome. We can only guess the probabilities. So if you have guessed probability of a positive event of being high, go for it for sure. Sometimes your positive guess, might not agree with the outcome you get, that does not mean you were wrong, it just means that the secondary influencing factors made the outcome different from what you were expecting.

So take a step back and reevaluate your assumptions and you might learn something new. If your assumptions are still positive, keep working on it and the outcome will turn out to be positive. it might just take few more attempts. People sometimes call this Luck or hand of god etc. So keep that light lighted and don't let it go. Things will eventually happen. In past it was called a prophecy . So its  a prophecy that you will SUCCEED . Don't let those positive thoughts die. Keep working on it. You are bound to get the results. 

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