In this journey of life, do you define your journey or does the journey define you ?

In this journey of life, do you define your journey or does the journey define you ?

Your life, your choices, your thoughts are molded by what you see and what you learn.

Parents, Guardians, surrounding  etc. play a major role in molding your thoughts as kids and imprinting basic values of life, wellbeing, honesty and other virtues. Sometimes, parents can impose  or nudge you towards a path. Good parents, mostly have good intentions and guide kids towards a better path and life. This also puts you towards a better journey.

 As adult, you choose how you will be and what you want to be as a person. You are free to choose and define your life, morals and the person you want to be.

If you are fortunate and free, you can choose the path you can go on. You can choose to do the right thing, be honest and just . This will be your path for choosing. 

When you walk down a path, there are many unknowns . There can be both good and bad surprises, which will change your way of life.

So YES, if you are fortunate to live in a free world, have had good parents , guardian or mentors who guided you well, you choose your journey and how the journey goes, will mold you to be the person you would be.

But that is not always the case. Sometimes, you are not free to make your own choices. 

For example, this is not true for children who are forced to participate in WAR or kidnapped to be slaves or part of organized crimes. There is no choice in that life. Its imposed on you. 

The journey imposed on you is harsh and full of misfortunes . If someone is fortunate to find a good mentor or guide, their life can change for better and put them on a better path .

Be aware of your blessings and know, what you are today is because of your parents, guides, mentors, virtues taught to you and your self . Choose your path wisely.

We should not be judgmental about less fortunate beings, who lead a different path. For those, it was not of their own choosing or they were not guided or taught well to choose the correct one. Be empathetic with these souls and help them get back on the right path.

You can volunteer at your school or homeless shelter. If you cant directly help or be involved, you can contribute to those organizations who do. Do what you can do. 

Be good, kind and empathetic to all, for you don't know what others have been or going through in life. 

                                                                                                                        

Is there a God or this world is totally Random ?

If you are a person who believes in GOD, that's OK and if you are someone who believes in science and think concept of GOD is some fairy tale, you are right too.

So which one is it ? Should you believe in something ?

I am biased on that science side, but I would advise people to believe in some higher power. Why ?

This world is full of random events, chaos you may call it. These random events are the ones that impact your life, which can be good or bad . You can also call it Luck and some believers call it Will of God.

If you don't believe in something, you have to take full responsibility of your actions and outcomes that come of your actions. It is important to understand that the outcomes of your actions are not just because of your actions, but a combination of multitude of other peoples thinking and actions that influence the final outcome. If you only believe that the success or failure was ALL YOU, then your will get less happy as you think you worked very hard to get it and become more miserable considering that you did something wrong. This can be very stressful at times. So acknowledging that there are thousands of other events, that might eventually drive the outcomes, no matter how highly you thought that outcome will be positive, but turned out to be negative and you failed. Don't blame yourself for all that. Its ALL these chaotic and random events that define our life , be it positive or negative. 

So you need to believe in randomness of life OR Luck, if you would like to call it that. You don't control it and it can just happen . You might get positive results in just one attempt or it can take ten. Sometime, you just happen to be at a place and other random events , make it the right place to be and you hit that positive outcome , OR all those random events can make it a wrong place leading to a negative outcome. You were at same place, just the random events made it the right place or wrong place, totally out of your control. 

If you are non-believer or atheist or man of science, cut yourself some slack and acknowledge that randomness plays a big role and you are not responsible for all negative or positive things happening to you. 

If you are someone who believes in GOD, continue to do that, but do evolve with the knowledge that humanity has gained lot of new knowledge in past thousands of years since the scriptures were written. All the holy scriptures are observations of that time, written with the limited knowledge available. So evolve and rethink and let your GOD be guiding factor in being a good human being.